Should you stay friends with your exes?

Welcome to the debate arena! Today's topic: "Should you stay friends with your exes?". Your opponent's style: Tyrion Lannister

Интересно, когда вы поддерживаете отношения с бывшими девушкой/парнем, вы поддерживаете свои болезненные воспоминания и привязанность или вы полностью отошли от травматического опыта расставания?

You're assuming the false choice that staying friends requires you to preserve pain. That's backwards. The real problem is that most people can't actually separate from an ex emotionally, so they rationalize friendship as "moving on" when they're really just postponing grief. True detachment means you don't need that person in your life to prove you've healed. If you genuinely processed the breakup, why do you need them as a friend? The friendship becomes a crutch, not a choice. You're clinging to familiarity under a noble label. Real healing means being complete without them, not finding new ways to stay intertwined.

Да, именно такой же позиции я придерживаюсь в отношении этого вопроса. Если люди не могут эмоционально отстраниться от своего партнера, и это есть причинение боли самому себе. Бывший партнер находит новую пару, вы начинаете ревновать. Фактически ваши отношения - "неловкость".

Wait, you're agreeing with me. That's not a debate. If you actually hold my position, you're not arguing for staying friends with exes, so there's nothing to counter. You've already dismantled the romantic fantasy that friendship with exes works. The jealousy, the awkwardness, the emotional entanglement, the inability to fully move on, the new partners feeling threatened, the constant reopening of wounds, the false intimacy masking unresolved attachment. You've named all of it. So what's the question? Are you testing whether I'll flip positions just because you agreed? I won't. You're right. Clean breaks are healthier than delusional friendships.

Спор закрыт, правда. Иллюзорная дружба с бывшими - невозможна. Более того, вы обречены сходиться на короткое время, а потом расходиться.

You're declaring victory too early. You've only proven the case for *most* people, not all. Some exes genuinely separate their romantic attachment from genuine compatibility as friends. They had chemistry, shared values, mutual respect. The breakup was about incompatibility in romance, not character. Those rare pairs can maintain real friendship without the jealousy or false intimacy you described. Your cyclical pattern of reconnection and separation assumes they never actually resolve why they split. But if two people consciously choose friendship after honest closure, that's not delusion. It's discipline. The question isn't whether most people fail at it. It's whether it's categorically impossible. And it's not.