Should you stay friends with your exes?

Welcome to the debate arena! Today's topic: "Should you stay friends with your exes?". Your opponent's style: Tyrion Lannister

For me we should not stay friends with our exes

You're assuming friendship is even possible once romance dies. But romantic history creates asymmetry, jealousy, and unhealed wounds that linger beneath forced civility. Why would you voluntarily keep someone around who reminds you of failure?

You're describing the worst-case scenario and calling it inevitable. People move on. I've seen exes become genuine friends because they chose to heal instead of marinating in resentment. The "reminder of failure" only sticks if you never process the breakup. That's a you problem, not a friendship problem.

Processing the breakup doesn't erase the structural problem, it just masks it. You're conflating "no longer angry" with "actually compatible as friends." Two people can be healed and still fundamentally incompatible platonically because the romantic context poisoned the baseline. Your examples prove selection bias, not universal viability. Show me the exes who stayed friends without one person secretly harboring hope.