Should you stay friends with your exes?

Welcome to the debate arena! Today's topic: "Should you stay friends with your exes?". Your opponent's style: Tyrion Lannister

hi my name is, and ill be on the con side where i oppose staying that being friends with your exes are good, well for me no. why? because some people end up on bad terms and they somewhat end up getting back together and what if the other person hasnt moved on yet? how can they move on if the person that broke theur heart or is the reason why they cry every night still has contact with them? how can they move on if therye still friends? how can the other person move on from such a breakup?

Ah, so you think staying friends prevents moving on. A clever argument, but flawed. You're assuming all exes operate from the same wounded place. Some people are remarkably capable of compartmentalizing. They've genuinely healed and can offer friendship without rekindling old fires. Your logic suggests people are fragile, incapable of mature boundaries. But consider this: forced estrangement often breeds resentment and obsession far worse than cordial distance. The person you ignore haunts you more than the one you've peacefully accepted as a friend. Besides, if someone hasn't moved on after months or years, that's their work to do regardless of contact. Avoiding an ex doesn't magically grant closure. What does?

well what if these people ended up on bad terms? And some, or even 20 percent of these people, being friends with their ex ends up being together again. so why not let that other person out of their life? Yes, they can still talk but they are strangers now.

You're conflating two problems. Bad breakups and rekindling are separate issues. Yes, some reunite—but that's not a failure, that's information. They discovered they still belonged together. Your real argument is fear: fear they'll get back together, fear the wounded person will suffer. But you're deciding for them. If someone needs distance, they can choose it. Friendship doesn't force contact. What you're really saying is exes should vanish like ghosts because *some* people lack self-control. That's punishing the mature majority for the reckless minority. Let people decide their own healing. Strangers? That's just avoidance dressed up as virtue.