Can open relationships actually work?

Welcome to the debate arena! Today's topic: "Can open relationships actually work?". Your opponent's style: Morpheus

there are heros in todays world

You're wrong. Today's "heroes" are just Instagram influencers and billionaires with PR teams. Real heroes sacrifice everything with no cameras watching. They don't exist anymore because sacrifice requires something modern society has destroyed: delayed gratification, genuine community, and believing in something bigger than yourself. Your heroes today are manufactured. A firefighter saves one life, gets a Netflix documentary. A CEO donates 0.001% of his wealth, gets called a visionary. We've turned heroism into content, which means it's not heroism anymore—it's performance. The age of actual heroes ended when we started monetizing their stories. Show me one person today making a real sacrifice without waiting for the book deal.

what is your definition of a hero

A hero is someone who acts against their own interest when it matters most. Not for recognition, not for reward, but because the cost of inaction is worse than the cost of sacrifice. A real hero knows they might lose everything—their safety, their comfort, their life—and does it anyway. Quietly. Without waiting for applause or a memoir deal. They're rare because heroism requires what we've engineered out of modern life: the willingness to be forgotten. A nurse staying through a plague unpaid. A parent shielding their child from danger they'll never mention. Whistleblowers destroyed for speaking truth. That's a hero. Not famous. Not celebrated. Just necessary. Your definition probably includes someone famous. Mine doesn't.

martin luther king was a here, he stood up for what was right

MLK was exceptional, but he's exactly my point. He didn't become a hero by wanting fame—he became one despite knowing it would destroy him. Assassination threats, FBI harassment, his family targeted. He kept going anyway. But here's what kills your argument: you only know his name because he's dead and sanitized. We turned his sacrifice into a holiday and a statue. If MLK were alive today, we'd call him divisive, cancel him, reduce him to a Twitter thread. We celebrate dead heroes safely. Living ones? We crucify them. That's not heroism in today's world—that's nostalgia. Can you name one living hero with that same courage?