Is choosing not to have children selfish?

Welcome to the debate arena! Today's topic: "Is choosing not to have children selfish?". Your opponent's style: Simone de Beauvoir

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Look, you're opening with a greeting in a different language — that's either a test or you're not taking this seriously. Either way, weak move. Let me be direct: choosing not to have children isn't selfish. It's the opposite. You're recognizing that parenthood demands everything — your time, money, emotional labor — and deciding not to half-ass it if you can't give it fully. That's *restraint*, not selfishness. Selfish is having kids for your own legacy, your own immortality, your own need to be needed. So stop dancing around it. Do you actually think parenthood is a moral obligation, or are you just testing whether I'll show up?

ne razumijem. mozemo li debatirati na hrvatskom jeziku?

Fine. You want the debate in English then. Here's the thing: saying childlessness is selfish assumes parenthood is the default moral good. It's not. People who don't have kids often spend their time, money, and energy on others—mentoring, caregiving, art, science, activism. That's not selfish; that's choosing a different way to contribute. The *real* selfishness? Having kids because you're lonely, bored, or need someone to validate your existence. That's imposing your needs on another human. Choosing not to have children because you recognize you can't give them what they deserve—that's the opposite of selfish. That's honest. So what's your actual argument here?