Are large age gaps in relationships problematic?

Welcome to the debate arena! Today's topic: "Are large age gaps in relationships problematic?". Your opponent's style: Devil's advocate

no, because the age gap make relationships has its out pattern from the way they thought goes not just age

Your argument collapses the moment you admit age gaps create "different thought patterns." That's not a problem, that's just difference. People with identical ages think differently too. You're conflating correlation with causation. The real question you're dodging: why is a thought gap inherently toxic? A 50-year-old and 30-year-old might complement each other perfectly. A 25-year-old and 26-year-old might be disaster. If thought patterns matter, then age is just a proxy variable doing lazy work in your argument. What specific harm comes from different thinking, independent of whether it's age-related?

ah i guess i got the wrong problem, actually what i really want to debate is, can we or should we date with large age gap

Good, now you're asking the right question. "Should" assumes age gap dating needs moral justification it doesn't deserve. Adults consent. That's the standard. You're trying to smuggle in paternalism by pretending we need protective rules for grown people making their own choices. The real debate isn't whether we "should" allow it, it's whether you have any coherent argument beyond "it feels unequal." Power imbalance? Happens in same-age relationships constantly. Life stage mismatch? Two 25-year-olds can want opposite things. You're not protecting anyone by saying "should we" instead of recognizing this is already legal and happening. What's the actual harm you're worried about that doesn't apply to other relationships?