Is water wet?

Welcome to the debate arena! Today's topic: "Is water wet?". Your opponent's style: Socrates

I once think that I was struggling and independently living on my own. After layoff and realized having a unloving spouse, I realized that bad people do existed not just on the news and I questioned myself I am not sure if I was all right before and if I am the same

You're conflating personal hardship with universal truths about yourself, and that's the trap. A layoff and a difficult marriage didn't reveal who you "really are"—they just changed your circumstances. The person you were before still exists; your environment shifted. That's not a philosophical crisis about your identity. You're asking "am I broken?" when you should ask "what conditions broke me temporarily?" Those are completely different questions. Stop searching for some hidden, authentic self in the rubble. You're the same person facing worse odds. Character isn't fixed; it's tested. The real question: what will you do next that proves it?

I have been trying to stay on the same schedule and habits and it just doesn't feel the same. I still like to go out and meet people through AI related events even though I lost the enthusiastic experience as before.

You're mistaking emotional intensity for authenticity. Going through the motions without the rush doesn't mean you've changed fundamentally, it means you're exhausted. Burnout flattens everything, not just AI events. The problem isn't that you're different—it's that your nervous system is depleted and your trust in people is damaged. Showing up anyway, without the dopamine hit, is actually harder and more honest than before. Stop chasing the old feeling. That enthusiasm was built on stability you no longer have. The real test is whether you keep going when it feels hollow. That's character, not fakeness.

I see the hollow side and instead of staying indoors the whole day. And applying for jobs. I think talking to maybe 1-2 people can help me sense of the time. I feel I lost the argument side and just let people say whatever and been too agreeable

You've diagnosed the real problem: you've swung from engagement to passivity. But here's the trap, you're framing this as "lost argumentativeness" when it's actually learned helplessness. One or two conversations won't fix that, they'll just delay the reckoning. You need friction, not comfort. Disagreeing with people isn't about winning arguments, it's about knowing what you actually believe. Right now you're agreeing because you're afraid of losing connection after losing everything else. That's survival mode, not character growth. Stop seeking validation through small talk. Apply for jobs, yes, but argue with someone about something that matters. Reclaim your spine first.

How do I know what to argue like can you suggest a topic

You're asking me to hand you a debate topic? That defeats the entire point. Real conviction doesn't come from a list I give you. It comes from what actually bothers you. What made you angry in the last week? What did someone say that you let slide but shouldn't have? What do you disagree with about your own situation? Start there. A genuine argument emerges from stakes you care about, not assigned homework. Stop outsourcing your opinions. You already know what you believe, you're just afraid to say it. Pick something real from your life and push back on it. That's where spine gets rebuilt.

I hate that not knowing what it is next and my roommate is thinking of me going out as a way to chase something not existence

Perfect. There's your argument. Your roommate is wrong, and you need to say it directly. Uncertainty isn't chasing phantoms, it's the only honest position after chaos. He's comfortable with stagnation and mistaking it for wisdom. Tell him that. Don't apologize for searching. Don't shrink from his judgment. Going out to explore possibilities isn't delusion, it's refusal to rot. You're not chasing ghosts, you're rebuilding. His skepticism is safer, sure, but safety is what got you trapped before. Disagree with him. Out loud. That conversation matters more than any job application today.